“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
Often as I read Ephesians 4:29, I think of people I believe need to hear this scripture when all the while I am equally as guilty myself. I justify saying harsh things about others due to the fact they have hurt me or been rude to me when all the while this is NOT what God tells me to do. His holy Word says for me to only say things that build others up. Notice He also adds to say things “according to their needs”. God understands those around us with needs are not easy always easy to deal with. He knows how hard it is for us to deal with individuals we so desperately want to condemn with our words.
I like to always go back to Jesus. He is the ultimate example for all Christians for on the cross of Calvary He asked God to forgive us! He didn’t mean just those who were putting Him to death when He said these powerful words. He was referring to me and to you, too. No greater love has ever nor ever will be shown than Jesus taking our punishment and dying on the cross.
Often my hardest battle is when someone is unkind or hurts my daughter. My inner “mama bear” tends to raise her ugly head and gives me a desire to lash out with my words, when all the while I must remember that my daughter is watching my every move and listening to every word I speak. I promised God long ago, when she was first entrusted in my care, to be an example in her life of how a Christian conducts him/herself, even in the very worst moments.
I challenge myself and you to better examine how you speak of others, especially those who hurt you or speak against you. Most of the time the ones who annoy us the most are the very ones who need the Savior. What if God is calling you to assist in that process?